THE UNSUITABLE SUITOR: Something For The Single Ladies by Lady Yudy

THE UNSUITABLE SUITOR: Something For The Single Ladies by Lady Yudy

Single ladies eagerly and prayerfully anticipate the happy event of meeting and being pursued by an eligible bachelor. They expect a brief courtship and a beautiful wedding within a year or so of dating Mr. Right. But all too often their hopes are dashed as they begin to discover that things are not as they should be. Not every man (born again or otherwise) that comes around for the dating dance actually has matrimony in mind.
The unsuitable suitor leaves his signature in many ways and the wise single lady would be wise to be on her guard so as not to fall for his pranks and time-wasting schemes. These are some of his activities:

- 1. He hangs around a lady indefinitely, visiting, texting, calling, pinging, skyping and taking her out regularly to all the happening joints and events and yet he never says anything about how he feels about her. Never. He is just a ridiculous child out for entertainment.


- 2. He comes into her life declaring how much he cares about her and how she means the world to him… but he never actually proposes or makes a definite commitment to having a future with her. Never. He is a shameless player and time waster.

- 3. He proposes to her without delay but never gets around to putting a ring on her finger or introducing her to his family or Pastor as an intended wife. He is commitment-shy.


- 4. O he introduces her to his entire family and goes on and on about how he can’t wait to marry her…but her never actually fixes a viable wedding date. He isn’t ready to settle down.
- He fixes a wedding date but keeps shifting it further and further into the future claiming he is waiting to put one thing or the other in place or asserting that his mum, grandma or great aunt in America has not yet agreed on the proposed date. He is a mummy’s boy living a fantasy.

- 5. He proposes almost immediately after he meets the lady and demands for an immediate answer giving her no time to think or to get to know him at all. He is rushing to nowhere.

- 6. He proposes, fixes a date and weds the lady in record time… only for her to discover immediately after the ceremony that the dude is already married to some other lady who he abandoned with 3 children in the village or in another city! He is a fraudster and a bigamist.

- 7. He is all for a quick wedding as long as she can prove her fertility by getting pregnant first. He is not submitted to God’s word.

- 8. He is excited about getting married to her…as long as she is prepared to foot the ENTIRE bill of the wedding AND gives him millions to set up some nebulous ‘business.’ He is an opportunist and has no sense of pride as a REAL MAN.
- 9. He wants to marry her with all his heart… but he claims doesn’t just know how to break up with his current live-in girlfriend. He is a descendant of Solomon and a cheat.

- 10. He promises marriage and expects free unrestrained physical intimacy with his fiancée. He is immoral and lacks the fear of God.
Variants of these kinds of suitors exist everywhere and continue to continue to hold naïve ladies looking forward to meeting and marrying Mr. Right captive. Once a man has stolen years of your life, your heart and your virtue under the guise of love, there is no refund.
So rather than becoming yet another unfortunate victim of such unsuitable men, every single lady owes it to herself to love and protect herself in the following ways:

• Treat and see every man that hangs around you as a platonic friend. Period. No more waiting around for years for a man to talk or commit. No proposal, no deal. 

• Refuse to consider a proposal as valid till the dude has actually introduced you to his parents and Pastor as his intended wife AND fixed a realistic wedding date.

• Refuse to be used to satisfy any dude’s lust or be tested for fertility. You are worth way more than that.

• Refuse to be used as any man’s ATM. Real men pay their own way and work hard to provide for the woman they love.
• Finally do your due diligence and investigate before you commit. It could save you a load of regret later.

Stay happy and free from any of the time – wasting and deceptive schemes outlined above and you will be in the right position to meet and accept the blessed Mr. Right.
God bless you!
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